This is a long one, y’all, stay with me here.
Isn’t it crazy how things can change in the blink of an eye and how we as humans can be affected by the smallest things, how we can have strong emotions for things that seem so minuscule in the big scheme of it all. At the beginning of this week I was coming off of a high, coming home from five days in the Bahamas with my high school girlfriends, sipping, snacking and enjoying some Caribbean sunshine. But, sometimes even after the best of weeks, or days we get knocked down and have to pick ourselves up. Although not the usual tone for my posts, this post seemed appropriate to share after having a little bit of a rocky week, just getting down on myself about things that were out of my control. This week knocked me down for sure and I will spare you all the details, but my point here is you learn to pick yourself up, to make your own sunshine and not rely on others, it has taken me a while to learn that not everyone will be as kind as you and you can not always expect people to treat you the way you would them. I am personally a giver and a believer and not everyone is like that and you can not help anyone who does not want to be helped. These are things that are hard for me to grasp and often leave me upset and wondering what it is I did wrong, but then I find my sunshine….the gym (oh how I love my box, I could spend hours there clearing my mind... and I do!), my friends & family, my dogs, long coffee breaks, warm summer beach days, runs on the boardwalk, ice cream & chocolate, curling up in a big soft blanket after a long day, travel and the list goes on! These are some rays of light in my life that that bring me happiness. What are your rays of light, what cheers you up or brings you happiness?
After a rough couple of days I stumbled upon these pictures of me in the Buttonwoods sunflower field. Every time I look at these sunflowers, that exude yellow cheer I can't help but smile and think of all the good that’s to come and all the things in my life that make me shine with happiness. I am reminded that a bad day or week doesn't have to define me. It’s okay to be upset or feel off, you get to feel what you need to feel to get over the hump, but don't forget to make your own sunshine in this world! Let that sadness be quick and find the bright, beautiful sunshine in your own little universe. Sunflowers stand tall and face the light, shouldn’t humans do the same?
This week someone told me that they needed to learn to love them self first, something I admired because quite honestly this can be hard, but it reminded me of two of my favorite Sex and the City quotes one being, “It’s the rule of life that everything you have always wanted comes the very second you stop looking for it” Sometimes it is hard to let things go and let things happen naturally, the clock is always ticking and we get anxious, we want, want, want and forget to live and love life as it is and as it happens. I often forget this myself I have an idea of how things should be how I want them to be, when I want them to happen and how I want them to happen and I forget life does not work this way! Sometimes I feel like nothing is going my way that being 20 is SO hard and nobody else is experiencing being hurt or upset or stressed or anxious, but the truth is there are so many people experiencing the same things and much bigger things than I will ever have to face. The fact of the matter is that everything will fall into place, things will happen when you're least expecting them too, making it all the more exciting and worth the wait. The other quote being, “Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic those that are old and familiar, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love well, that's just fabulous.” It is all about loving yourself first and waiting for the right people to come into your life who will love you for you. This goes for friends and significant others. You want the people in your life to radiate happiness and bring out the best in you. I am always so worried about making others happy that sometimes I forget to take care of myself and find that happiness. You have to love yourself unconditionally as you would any other person, take time for yourself, do the things that shine some light on your own life. Create that sunshine for yourself.
It amazes me how something as simple as a flower can brighten up the day with its natural serenity and charm, especially these bright yellow beauties. Every year it is a must, to go to Buttonwoods Sunflower Farm, for flower frolicking, pictures and of course, ice cream! Some years I go with family some I go with friends. Me and my girl gang made it out this year and got lucky that the predicted rainy forecast held up and we were able to snap some of the most adorable shots. Now I know y’all are wondering what my ice cream selection was this year, It is always a tough decision but for the win this year was, strawberry cheesecake and caramel turtle swirl. OH BABY! This was pure sunshine in my life, flashes of bright yellow flowers all brought together with a creamy delicious treat shared with some of my closest friends.
As for outfit details, I went for a white off the shoulder peasant type shirt with classic frayed jean shorts then spiced the look up with a belt and a pop of red. Bright colors always make me shine bright! My gucci belt is a dupe, but who would ever know unless you’re reading this post! Shop the dupe here and the rest of the look below because this casual look with a pop of color is perfect for frolicking, wandering and spreading all the sunshine and happy feels!
I have noticed that in some way, shape or form I have been incorporating a lot of red into my wardrobe and I’m not sure where this is coming from, I have just been reaching for the pop of red a lot lately, but who's complaining?? Not me! I’m a big believer in all the bright colors and red just happens to be my go to this summer! What’s your go to pop of color?
I am always looking for new traditions to start, or just fun activities, like going to Buttonwoods. Send me a message, email or comment below and let me know what your favorite activities are, or anything that brightens your day even just the slightest bit!
Don't forget to stand tall and find your sunshine, be a sunflower! xx
With Love, Mack